I had to sit back, analyze, think quite a lot to write this. I don’t mean the lazy kind of thinking, where during your leisure time you actually start thinking of what to write. I actually thought about this so much that I had a dream where I had already written it.
It’s beautiful, trust me, so beautiful how total strangers become best of friends, how we all connect at some point, how everything, I mean everything happens for a reason.
It all points back to when I started my life as a fresh undergraduate. On a normal day back at that time, I wouldn’t have been the first to say hello to someone new, besides we were all new here too. There she (Ujunwa) was, sitting on her bed, looking very confused I must add. I decided to be a big girl and walk up to her and say something like “let’s do all this together”.
Little did I know that piece by piece, we were interconnected. Ujunwa knew Prisca, who I had actually seen before but I haven’t spoken to yet. We found out we went to the same Tutorial center but we didn’t even meet then. Through Ujunwa, I met Prisca finally. We started out well you know, quite well. Then came Juliet, she had been friends with Prisca since their childhood. It was quite easy to fit into her world, she was really welcoming.
The beauty of everything is it didn’t just stop there. I met Nneka on out first day of school, she looked really innocent in her usual combination of black and white at that time. How we kept talking after then is something I can’t really pin-point. Then came Favour, later in the show. I didn’t get to meet her until much later, although I had seen her once or twice. These were the first set of people I started talking to during my early days in school.
When I think about the fact that if I had not met Ujunwa on her first day, things would have been quite different. I probably would have had another set/kind of people I call my friends. During the years I spent in school, I wouldn’t say I was particularly jovial or really nice but I got to know quite a number of people on different levels. So this week I’m starting my Appreciation series. I would go on and on about how they made my years in school memorable. I definitely can’t do that in just one post because reading that would be time-consuming. So I would be doing that in segments.
Family is not just a term used for people related by blood but those who actually love, care and are there for you. You all are my family.
You’re a really beautiful and caring young lady. Even though it took me long to understand you, I’m happy to have walked to your room that morning and starting a conversation. Without you knowing, you taught me that patience is very important when dealing with people. You grew, I grew; Our growth individually and together have been really blissful. You’re a beautiful person both in and out and it’s something that brings people closer to you. I’m grateful for you.
“You can achieve anything you set your mind to. Always know that.”
You’re strong, beautiful and again I’d say strong. Your mother-like nature is really awesome. It didn’t take us long to connect and we’ve had our phases. Even through my most annoying phase, you were there. I remember the “interventions”, “family meetings”, You always made sure you kept us all together. You’re opinionated, strong-willed; you remind me of myself when it comes to this. I’m grateful for you. “The Boyfriend” as I fondly call you;
“You’re enough, Always remember that.”
My mum’s favorite. I love the way you balance everything going on in your life. You have a lot of things going on but you always find a way to make it all work. You’re smart and beautiful and strong. Girlllll, you’re strong. There was a time when I’d call my mum and the next thing I’d hear is “what of Nneka?”. You motivate me sometimes to do things because when I’m about to procrastinate a voice in my head would tell me “ Nneka would now start teasing me”. I’m grateful for you.
“Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are. Always remember that.”
We connected on various levels especially skin color. I love the way you love “the black skin”, it makes me happy. Even when “beautiful boy,” thought we were sisters, we even went ahead to deceive him into believing that we were. He didn’t know what was going on. You’re a calm, lowkey funny person and let’s not forget, you’re a beautiful dark skin girl. We would sit and talk about different things, it was always blissful. Even when you decided to live on the last floor, you would still come around to see what’s going on with us. I’m grateful for you.
“Nothing is as beautiful as a confident beautiful black woman. Always remember that”
When I met you, you were a very jovial, outspoken young girl who wanted everyone to feel wanted and loved. It was a beautiful thing to watch. You always have a way of surprising me every now and then. We definitely had our beautiful moments. You’re a beautiful and brilliant person who can do anything she sets her mind to. I’m grateful for you.
“Do whatever makes you happy. Always remember that.”
Stay tuned for more of this. I’d be going all out this time.
Love in its purest form,